Sunday, November 28, 2010

Decisions matter

Tonight I went out for dinner at a nice place with my relatives. I only see my relatives every few months, and while that's not that long, it certainly makes you realise that it is quite a bit of time when you see their faces. It's not that one person's aged significantly, you just realise the changes immediately when you see them and when everyone starts talking about their lives.

Anyway, during our dinner, I noticed three things:

1. My one-year-old cousin Jonathan has grown and changed significantly. A few months back, he was just a baby. And now, it seems as though he has a character of his own. He's playful, adorable and just so active all the time. Shows just how much change a few months can bring.

2. It is possible to enjoy a dinner with very little input. Try, no input at all. Just seeing my cousins' faces and watching their crazy antics were enough to make my night.

3. Decisions matter.

Now, that last one was really the key one for me tonight. I noticed when I saw my aunt caring for her two kids, three-year-old Phoebe and her recent child, Jonathan. It's wonderful, watching her care for them, before you realise that it takes so much work to look after a child. I look at her, and I really do admire her.

She's highly educated, and very capable at what she does, from what I've heard from my mum. And yet, she withdrew from the workforce and decided to look after her children, and in today's society, that's rare. Many mothers now work either part-time, or work full-time and send their kids to child care. I admire Herda's (my aunt) decision to be a stay-at-home mum and making her kids priority number one. It's not to say that mums who work do not make their kids their first priority -- of course they do, but it's different in the sense that they still want to work, whereas Herda is putting her full focus on her kids.

It shows that decisions really do matter. They change everything, and it's not to say that they'll change for the bad, but a decision changes someone's life. Herda made a decision to stay at home and make Phoebe and Jonathan her priority, and that changes her life and her children's lives. And it's a huge decision, as it comes with great responsibilities and sacrifices to be made. It's so stressful to be a stay-at-home mum, and it's hard work. I truly do admire that, and it makes me wonder if I would come to the same conclusion when I'm in her situation in a few decades' time.

Of course, some decisions we make are not as life-changing as the one that Herda made, but they still matter. To me, it's like these little decisions building up to the big one. When we make a decision, we're making an educated view of things and as we make more decisions, we learn more about ourselves and what we want in our lives. Make some wrong decisions, and tell you kids and grandkids about them when you're older, and have a laugh. However, make sure make most of your decisions the right ones -- and to do that, I believe you need to have a certainty in what you want in your life. Whether right or wrong, in the end, all the decisions in your life matter. Yes, that includes choosing between jam or peanut butter to put on your toast in the morning. Our decisions define who we are, and as cliche as that sounds -- it's true.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Live in the moment

I have a Maths exam and a Commerce assignment due in tomorrow -- and quite honestly, I'm no where close to finishing my revision or starting the assignment. And yet, surprisingly, I'm not one bit worried. It's becoming clearer and clearer to me these few months that I should just live in the moment.

When I was in Grade 1, I used to fret all the time about my marks, and if I got under 90%, I would be upset with myself for the whole week. Silly, I know right? Then, as primary school progresses, I realised that all I needed to do was just do my best and leave it up to fate. Although I still get good marks by most people's standards today, I don't worry about it anymore. They're just marks.

To me, I don't want to look back in my high school years and see that all I've done was work hard and not live in the moment. What does living in the moment exactly mean? I guess, for me, it's just not fretting about everything, including school. I don't want to look back and think, "Why was I so hard on myself?" I want to make the most of life. Just slow down. School should be full of memories, and not stress about assignments.

I understand that to some people, school is important. I see it in so many people at my school. And I agree. Education is important and does determine how our future is going to look like to some extent. However, value life. Yes, school is probably the centre of our lives at the moment, mine included -- but we shouldn't spend our days fretting over it. I'm not saying that you should go out and be reckless. Alright, perhaps a little. Just enjoy life, and once one learns to let go of his or her stresses, it will become a way of life.

Just relax, slow down and live in the moment.

Monday, November 15, 2010

It's nine o' clock on a Saturday, regular crowd shuffles in...


Billy Joel -- one of music's greats. And this performance by him in the year of 2006 at the Tokyo Dome exemplifies just that. Playing the piano and the harmonica simultaneously... that's really something. His music's just so pure, so wonderful. And I love that his songs are about everyday life -- it's rare to find that in today's music.

Friday, November 5, 2010

People matter

People matter in our lives. They matter, because we need people who actually think we're good enough when we doubt ourselves over and over again. People who believe in us no matter how much we've failed. People who take us as we are, no matter how flawed we are.

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